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Victoria Noe

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Connection to Illinois: Noe moved to Chicago after graduating from college.

Biography: VIctoria Noe is an award-winning author, speaker and activist. In 2006, she promised a dying friend that she would write a book about people grieving their friends. That book turned into the Friend Grief series, six small nonfiction collections of stories from people whose lives changed when their friends died. With these books, she filled a gap in grief resources.

Noe's freelance work has appeared in Chicago Tribune, Huffington Post, Windy City Times and a variety of writing and HIV/AIDS-related websites. Her essay, 'Long-Term Survivor' won the 2015 Christopher Hewitt Award for Creative Nonfiction from A&U Magazine. A sought-after speaker, she has presented at such venues as The Muse and the Marketplace, Mt. Sinai Medical Center HIV rounds and public libraries around the Midwest. Her work in the AIDS community in Chicago began in the mid-1980s as a volunteer, then as a fundraiser for a variety of AIDS-service organizations until 1994. After a long break, she returned as a writer and advocate in 2011. Her focus includes sharing stories of women in the AIDS community and supporting the needs of long-term survivors.

Noe holds bachelor's and master's degrees in Speech and Dramatic Art from the University of Iowa, and uses her experience as a stage manager and director to help shy authors overcome their fear of public speaking. She is a member of the Alliance of Independent Authors, Chicago Writers Association and ACT UP/NY.


Primary Literary Genre(s): Non-Fiction

Primary Audience(s): Adult readers

Website: http://

Selected Titles

Fag Hags, Divas and Moms: The Legacy of Straight Women in the AIDS Community
ISBN: 0990308197 OCLC: 1109765482

King Company Publishing 2019

Friend Grief and 9/11: The Forgotten Mourners
ISBN: 0988463261 OCLC: 957521094

King Company Publishing 2013

Families only. Those who were killed on September 11, 2001 left behind more than family members. They left thousands of friends who are often forgotten and ignored: co-workers, first responders, neighbors and survivors who struggle to find a way to grieve the friends killed when the World Trade Center towers fell. In Friend Grief and 9/11: The Forgotten Mourners you'll learn how they adjust to life without their friends and find ways to honor those they lost on a clear, blue Tuesday.

Friend Grief and AIDS: Thirty Years of Burying Our Friends
ISBN: 0988463229 OCLC: 957277087

King Company Publishing 2013

It's been likened to a plague, but AIDS was never just a health crisis. The second of a series on grieving the death of a friend, Grief and AIDS: Thirty Years of Burying Our Friends, revisits a time when people with AIDS were also victims of bigotry and discrimination. In stories about Ryan White, ACT UP, the Names Project, red ribbons and more, you'll learn why friends made all the difference: not just caregiving or memorializing, but changing the way society confronts the medical establishment and government to demand action.

Friend Grief and Anger: When Your Friend Dies and No One Gives A Damn
ISBN: 0988463202 OCLC: 957157747

King Company Publishing 2013

It's not like they're family. Sound familiar? If you're grieving the death of a friend, you've probably heard that from people who just don't get it. And if it made you angry, well, you're not alone. In the first of a series of books on grieving the death of a friend Friend Grief and Anger; When Your Friend Dies and No One Gives A Damn, you'll meet people who also struggled with anger after their friend died. And they'll help you answer the question: Okay, I'm angry: now what?

Friend Grief and Men: Defying Stereotypes
ISBN: 0990308162 OCLC: 957527472

King Company Publishing 2016

Be a man. Society expects men to take charge, get things done and keep their emotions in check. But what happens when their best friend dies and they're not allowed to grieve? In Friend Grief and Men: Defying Stereotypes you'll meet men whose friendships shaped their lives. Some lost a best friend. Some lost dozens of friends. Their stories of grieving and healing will change your perception of what it means to 'be a man'.

Friend Grief and the Military: Band of Friends
ISBN: 0990308103 OCLC: 887449643

King Company Publishing 2014

They were killing my friends. That was how Medal of Honor recipient Audie Murphy justified his heroic actions in World War II. As long as there have been wars, men and women in the military have watched their friends die. Experts warn that delaying our grief will complicate our lives. But what about those who have no choice but to delay it until the battle is over? In Friend Grief and The Military: Band of Friends you'll meet military and non-combatants who struggle with the grief and guilt of losing their friends. You'll learn, too, in the amazing ways they help each other, that leave no one behind is a life-long commitment.

Friend Grief in the Workplace: More Than an Empty Cubicle
ISBN: 0990308138 OCLC: 957527395

King Company Publishing 2015

They're friends and coworkers, so when they die, it's not only a personal and professional loss but a challenge: How can you grieve and get your work done, too? In the fifth book in the Friend Grief series, Friend Grief in the Workplace: More Than an Empty Cubicle you'll meet people whose friends were coworkers, too: in a TV newsroom, a rectory, a Broadway show and on a baseball diamond. In those stories and more, you'll learn how they met that challenge and continue to honor the friendships that lasted longer than 9-5.